As Our Youth "Play it Safe"

05 April 2014

Infidelity is at an all-time high in our country these days. One would expect - with the rising cases of HIV infections and STI's, the infidelity numbers would drop, however they keep on soaring. "Playing it safe" is no longer supposed to be an excuse to engage in extramarital affairs or double crossing your partner. Playing should not be an option altogether.

Our youth has been taught the value of condoms versus that of morals. It is as if they are being told to conduct themselves in any manner as long as they "wrap it up". These young hopefuls who are: tomorrows' future men, daddies and husbands or women, mothers and wives are given the key to open up a "world of sexual possibilities" at a tender age then expected to shake it off and act like real men and women who will be faithful to their partners and responsible fathers and mothers when society demands it of them in the future. Africans have a saying

"ligotjwa lisemanti" meaning, the stick is bent whilst wet lest you want to break it.
The bible or religious studies /activities and books have been replaced by sex talks and condom handouts in our high schools. Yes we are of one understanding that there is a need for HIV and AIDS awareness, however let us not condone sexual activities with condoms as an aid to help decrease HIV infections. Let us promote abstinence, respect and teach our young hopefuls that to every action there is a reaction and depending on what it is, they will have to be accountable for it. Freedom without accountability is dangerous.

Abstinence should not be treated as a controversial subject in these times, however it should be instilled in the minds of our young ones not because of religious purposes, but because sex should not be a priority or a hobby at their stage. Until one has reached a level where they can fully understand the act and the consequences that follow not only physically, but emotionally as well, then sex should be taboo in their minds. The ideal South Africa has a youth who is fully educated and informed about HIV and AIDS however not a victim to it as they have strong values and act in accordance with their principles. They do not idolise sex and women, however they understand the role in which they are called to: lead and protect the weaker sex. Our girls are just as informed about the subject at hand and don't use their bodies to lure men and batter their valuables for Rands. They are strong willed and understand that they are future mothers and wives who have to pass on the moral baton to their offspring.

Again infidelity is at an all-time high in our country ...looking at the systems and lessons we have put in place one can't help but wonder if we are to blame for the monsters we have or are creating.

Kholiwe Nkambule

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